3rd Birthday – The Challenge!

This Saturday, Landon and Nolan will be three years old!  Each year we try to celebrate their lives by giving back, and we ask the many friends and prayer warriors for Landon and Nolan to help us make a bigger impact. If you would like to participate this week, do something kind, something unexpected, something needed.  Help make the world a better place, one person at a time!  You can share your kind act with Melody on Facebook as Two If By Faith. You can include #twoifbyfaith  #liveinharmony and/or #herochallenge3.

For those who might prefer to make a donation, all donations this year will be split among these three charities. If you would prefer your donation be directed to a specific one you can let Melody know.

Robinson Illinois – Harmony Park Project

Findlay Ohio – Miracle League of Findlay

Dallas Texas – Parker Lee Project

As always, we are grateful for the time we have with the boys, and indebted to all those who help make each day even more special.

Live in Harmony!



Biggest strengths: Spreading Joy

Along with the 3rd birthday, and pre-school meetings, come plenty of questions about the boys’ history, skills, and gaps.  If you’ve ever had to fill out one of those “can your child…” questionnaires at the routine doctor checkups, you know that when you have to say “no” to one of them it can be hard.  Maybe it is something they should be doing but aren’t.  Maybe it is something you hadn’t even thought to try to teach them.  Maybe you’re a first time parent or maybe you’re an experienced parent but either way this skill isn’t coming easy.


Imagine saying “no” to ALL of those questions. And knowing that very few of those “yes” boxes have a realistic shot of ever being checked.


It can wear on you if you let it.


I think I’ve landed in a healthy place regarding the boys’ abilities. I spend very little time worrying about what they are not, or what they can’t do.  They are who they are and the fact their ability level is different isn’t a source of stress anymore.  But it can still make answering developmental questions hard.


A recent evening, I was completing a phone call for the pre-school social assessment for the boys, and one of the final questions for each boy was what their greatest strength was. After very little hesitation, I knew the answer.  Spreading joy.  I could hear her smile over the phone as she agreed after her recent interaction with them.  Full of smiles that day, Landon and Nolan both brought joy in to the room, and sent it home with everyone they touched.


We’ll keep working on grasping, head control, name recognition, and purposeful movement. And if we make ground on those things that will be lovely.  But even if we don’t – the boys’ greatest skill, their life’s purpose, is still being fulfilled. Keep spreading joy, Landon and Nolan, for there may be no greater skill in existence.


Coming soon: A third birthday party!

In case you missed it, I launched a t-shirt fund raiser via bonfire on facebook. You can find the link here!

It’s only open for one more week!

Landon and Nolan’s 3rd birthday party will be themed around music:  Live in Harmony!  We’re excited to celebrate with and for them in the weeks to come.  For now, I wanted to introduce the t-shirt link, explain why it ends weeks ahead of their birthday, and introduce the charities we’ll be supporting.

From September 1st through September 17th, you are encouraged to live in harmony!  Join in the party, and help us celebrate THREE in style!

The t-shirt fund is “early” so we can wear the shirts early and often. I am hopeful that with this timing, shirts will be delivered by Labor Day, so friends and family, both near and far, can wear their shirts any time in September leading up to the boys’ birthday.  If you participate in a fundraiser, donate your time, deliver a meal, mow a yard, help a friend in need, or do any other kind act in honor of the boys’ birthday, feel free to snap a photo and send it to me!  You can comment on this blog, on the facebook page, or via email.  We love seeing how you are celebrating, and how you are being the heroes of the world. So don’t be shy – share your acts of kindness!  You never know who you will inspire!

 The hashtags this year are: #liveinharmony and #twoifbyfaith.

To be clear – your act of kindness does NOT have to be in the form of a donation. However – when we had multiple people ask to donate money in year one, we decided to create an outlet for that in year two.  I had no reason to suspect we would raise $4,500!  So for year three, you are once again encouraged to perform a kind act.  If you do choose to donate, either via the t-shirt fund raiser, a local event, or by donating through my parents or in laws, the money will make its way to me, and we will allocate it accordingly to the following charities.  I have not set up a go fund me page at this time, and do not plan to.  If someone “out there” has no connection to my family, and isn’t sure how else to donate funds to these causes, you can donate an additional amount via the t-shirt fund raiser through August 12th, or support a local cause near and dear to your heart and share your gesture with us via social media. 

Any funds raised for the birthday will go to:
Harmony Park in Robinson IL

Miracle League of Findlay OH

The Parker Lee Project in Texas